Ah, achieving one’s goals is every woman or man dream since the beginning of human existence. Don’t you think so? But how and why do we achieve that?
You’ll find out how to apply 3 special tips to reach almost always your goals:
- Focus on the result;
- Aim for the right goal;
- Learn to question yourself.
Why set goals?
Having goals is like adding a rocket in your life. This allows you to focus your attention on the concrete,on the present moment while projecting yourself into the future. That’s probably why most people make good resolutions every year.
Reaching one’s goals is almost touching the holy grail. It’s always a very nice feeling. In addition to the often positive result, it boosts self-confidence,and increases or boosts one’s motivation to set new goals. It really feels like we’re moving forward, we’re progressing.
However, the path to success is not always easy… Whether your goals are related to work, sport, your desire to lose weight, human relationships, etc. How do you achieve your goals for personal development or to feel like you are succeeding in life?
Here’s what you need to do in 3 tips…
1. Focus on the result
Let’s take an example: when you want to lose weight, imagining yourself with 20 pounds les (around 10 kilos) is obviously more pleasant than thinking about the possible deprivations to achieve it. Saying that you’re going to give up your favorite dish or get back to the sport isn’t always very motivating…
Look closely at the people around you who seem to be doing a lot of things in their lives. You will probably discover that they have some things in common.
You will invariably notice that they remain focused on the results they want. That’s their focus. They keep the desired result in mind regardless of the circumstances and unforeseen events. They are always ready to put things back on track to be sure to reach the goal that is important to them.
If you do the same, you will see that the result or goal you set yourself is much more important than the way to go to achieve that goal. Efforts will no longer seem so difficult.
An example with cyclists
It’s a bit like a Tour de France rider focusing on his fatigue while climbing Mount Ventoux (super difficult indeed). Do you think he will be more motivated than the one who is 100% focused on crossing the finish line at the top? I’m sure you don’t!
That’s how you’ll be able to achieve your goals. You need to maximize in your head the benefits of the goal, and minimize the inconveniences or difficulties you have to go through to achieve them. Look at the long term rather than the current situation that can change at any time.
So it’s like negotiating with yourself. But a negotiation that always remains to your advantage.
2. Aim for the right goal to achieve it
You have to aim for a strong goal, which will really bring you something positive. And in exchange for that big advantage, you have to accept a few concessions. But these concessions are not very important in comparison to the profits you are going to get.
But you don’t have to lie to yourself. You have to set goals that really bring you something, and that you can reasonably achieve. Otherwise, it will only serve to hinder your motivation.
If you take the example of the 20 pounds to lose, you can list the many benefits:
- You’ll have more energy for your daily activities
- Your health will be better
- You will have a longer life expectancy and you will age better
- You will have more confidence in yourself, including in your secular work and in your romantic relationships
- You won’t be embarrassed by the way others look at you
And if you think about it for a few minutes, you’ll realize that only one of these benefits alone is worth the concessions you’re going to make to get there. Learning to eat healthier and exercising regularly won’t seem so difficult anymore.
Small goals to achieve the main goal
But to reach your final goal, you may need to break it down into intermediate objectives. Before you lose 20 pounds, you’re going to have to lose 1, then 2, then 3… It’s up to you to determine when you want to cross these thresholds and make the effort accordingly with a real action plan.
Especially since the efforts are not as consequential as the weeks go by. Indeed, it’s all about the usual way, as is well explained in the this great book by Charles Duhigg (link to Amazon). And once an effort has become a habit, everything becomes much easier.
3. Achieving your goals means questioning yourself
What if these concessions, this road to achieve the intended goal really seem too difficult? So make sure you’re asking yourself the right questions such as:
- Am I not making excuses for myself? Sometimes that’s the case. Be honest with yourself.
- Isn’t the goal too difficult for me at the moment? That is not to say that it should be abandoned. No, but maybe you just have to put things back on track and break it down into more accessible, smaller objectives.
- Is this goal really my goal? Indeed, sometimes we try to do the same thing as others, without taking the time to ask whether these objectives are in line with our capabilities.
Once you have corrected or decided that the goal was the right one, then just (re)put yourself into action keeping in mind the benefits…
What do you think? Can focusing on the result rather than the short term boost your success to reach your goals?